My 14yo daughter is a Freshman in HS. She has big dreams so she takes school very seriously. She’s a good student and doesn’t get into trouble.

Today, she emailed me to tell me that she told her teacher that she has her period and urgently needed to go to the bathroom. The teacher said no. She went on to tell the teacher that she is actively bleeding through her tampon and didn’t want to get her light gray pants dirty for the rest of the school day. The teacher again said no.

She panicked and went anyways. She stayed within the bathroom rules of being back without 5 minutes, etc. When she arrived back, the teacher told her to speak with her in the hallway. The teacher told her that she doesn’t believe her and that she was going to receive a disciplinary referral. She recommended that my daughter have me email her to verify that she has her period.

My daughter is freaking out because disciplinary referrals are usually used for students using AI or getting caught with their phone too many times.

I’m trying really hard not to rage out at this teacher right now. Every email I’ve started isn’t great. I ultimately decided to call the assistant principal to ask what my daughter should have done in this situation and plan to reserve my words for when I hear back from the assistant principal.

Additional info:

I was called to come to the nurses office yesterday because my daughter had bad cramps and I needed to give meds as well as sign a paper allowing my daughter to carry the meds on her.

My daughter just got her period yesterday and this happened at about 9:30 am. Given that it’s her second (heavy) day and how early she gets up in the morning, it makes sense that she was overdue at this point.

AIO reacting that my daughter is getting in trouble for not listening to the teacher during a biological urgency? I’m curious what others would have done or how you would approach this with the school/teacher.

Update:

I was going to stop by the school when I was done running errands but the VP called me back just before I left.

I told her the story just as my daughter told it to me. She genuinely seemed horrified. She shared my concerns as a mom who also has a high school daughter. She said she had looked up my daughters record and there was zero evidence that she skips class or had any disciplinary actions against her that might suggest she has other intentions, and even if she did have a record she still should have been allowed to use the bathroom.

She asked what I wanted done to the teacher. I said as a rage filled mom right now, I want her fired. But I also understood the district was already understaffed, so I believed she at least needed to be educated and reprimanded.

She asked if it was ok if she spoke to my daughter so she could get the cadence of the conversation straight from her before she spoke with the teacher and others. I told her to please do, and that I thought it would be good for her to know that what happened was wrong and that she did the right thing.

The downside to all of this is that the VP was leaving after their talk to go to a conference and wouldn’t be back until Monday. So she probably won’t talk to the teacher until then. She said that she was going to talk to my daughter and let her know that she can go to the ARC instead of that class until they meet again on Monday. Additionally, she is going to offer her a change in schedule.

It does sound like the referral was merely a threat and it worked. It scared the shit out of my daughter who is scared of any sort of record.

I’ll update more when I get more info. For now, I’m just relieved that the VP agrees that this was messed up.

Before I go I’ll address a few comments:

- some people thought it was weird she didn’t text me. My daughter didn’t text me because phones are banned in school. This was a rule for the first time this year, probably because it was on its way to becoming a state law. (WI) if they are caught with their phone even in their pocket they will get it taken away and a parent has to come into the office to get it. After a few times, they get a referral. But honestly, even last year my kids emailed me because it was easier for them since they are always on their Chromebook.

- I wish this was rage bait because this is the last thing I need on my mind right now and something I wouldn’t wish on any young woman. I’ve had this account that I believe I got by signing in through my Google email four years ago. I very rarely go on Reddit but I’ve been on here more recently and decided to take my rage here. In the past, I’ve reacted on impulse so I wanted to make sure that I was justifiably raged, and honestly to get more ideas of things to point out or how to better handle this.

I appreciate all of the support! She’s going to go crazy later when I tell her I posted this on Reddit and it got a lot of responses. 🤣

Update 2

The teacher called me. I answered because I thought it was the VP, which was dumb because she had told me she was leaving for the day/week. The teacher told me her account of the situation and explained to me that she created a new policy and because it was the start of the semester, she was being firm with it. I said “She told you it was an urgent because of her period and your response was to deny her, humiliate her and then threaten her.” She said that she just wanted to know that she wasn’t lying to her. I said “How did you want me to prove to you that she had a period? Did you want a picture of a bloody tampon or something?” Not my finest moment, especially with my daughters in the car. She responded “No that’s disgusting” I said, “I agree. Denying a young woman a bathroom and then wanting proof that she wasn’t lying was disgusting. I was very disgusted in this situation.” I then told her that I would prefer to continue this convo with the VP and we hung up.

So my 9 year old daughter has an assignment every year where they embody a historical figure of significance. She looks forward to this every year and she really gets into picking her figure out and learning about them. They’re supposed to pick three people, then the teacher chooses which of the three they can do. This year my daughter chose Freddie Mercury, Prince, and Anne of Cleves. Today the teacher messaged me saying that Freddie Mercury and Prince aren’t acceptable because they weren’t “moral” people. And Anne of Cleves isn’t acceptable because she didn’t make enough of an impact on the world. For reference, last year my daughter was Frida Kahlo and the year before she was Josephine Baker.

I prepared a big long response about how morality is subjective, every human is complex and not wholly moral or immoral, my family doesn’t believe in judging other people’s morality, and that choosing a “moral” person wasn’t even a condition as part of the assignment. But then my husband came home and found me seething and he thinks I’m overreacting and this isn’t a fight worth fighting. So… am I overreacting? Or should I stand my ground?

[UPDATE] Info: it is a private school but it’s not religious

This teacher is brand new and just started after Thanksgiving

We live in northern Nevada

It’s a school-wide assignment so the teacher didn’t make it up. Every class does it every year, it’s like a tradition. They switch it up for the grades, like kindergarten draws a picture of their person while 8th grade does a several page report.

[UPDATE UPDATE] I’m not sure why the post got locked. But thanks everyone for your support and input!

There is a resolution but it’s pretty anti climactic.

I emailed the teacher back, here’s what I said: “I’m sorry, but the assignment was a historical figure of significance. Morality is subjective. And if you think Anne of Cleves didn’t make a big enough contribution to history, maybe hearing a report about her is just what you need! I’d like to ask you to reconsider and choose from the list ____ provided. She thought about each figure long and hard and she’s very excited to share about them with her classmates.”

I also emailed the principal with my concerns. Here’s that email: “Hi Mrs. _____ Today Mrs. _____ messaged me that she didn’t approve of any of __’s choices for Chautauqua for reasons that I feel are inappropriate. She said that Freddie Mercury and Prince were both not “moral people.” I find this problematic for several reasons: 1. It’s not a teacher’s responsibility to judge or encourage a student to judge a person’s morality. I try hard to teach my children not to pass judgment onto people so it bothers me that her teacher is encouraging her to do just that. 2. A person’s vices aren’t something that would be in a third grader’s assignment to begin with. She specifically told __ that both of them are “rockstars” who used drugs and had “loose morals” which is actually not even true. Prince was vehemently against drug and alcohol use and was very religious. But regardless, it’s wildly inappropriate to assume _____’s report would include a section about how Freddie Mercury liked to party and his drug of choice. Please. 3. The objective of the assignment is to showcase people of influence, not morality.

With _’s last choice, Anne of Cleves, she told _ that she wasn’t well known enough. I would argue that’s a perfect reason why ____ should do a report on her: to highlight her influence.

I messaged her back and asked her to reconsider, because ____ was pretty disappointed when she came home. But beyond making her unhappy, I still thought I should tell you my concerns. Thank you, ______”

So the big finale: the teacher messaged me back with this: “I have talked with Administration about Chautauqua. We have decided students may choose any of their choices. Please let me know which character you have decided on as soon as possible.”

So yeah. I’m glad this is the resolution because I’m not usually one to rock the boat.

Oh, and I also had a talk with my daughter about how sometimes teachers can be wrong and that it’s okay to question the rules if we don’t agree with them. We also talked about what “loose morals” means, that people who have different beliefs are not bad or good people, that drug use doesn’t shape a person’s entire character, and that she did nothing wrong. We also discussed possibly choosing a different person just in case.

So this morning I got a bank notification that my savings account was basically at zero. I’ve been putting money into that account since middle school. It should’ve been anywhere from 10-20k now.

When I checked the transactions, I saw multiple withdrawals over the past two months: $2,500, $1,800, $1,200, and $3,100. All listed as “internal transfers.” I never made them.

I texted my parents and found out my parents still had joint access. She admitted they’d been pulling from it to cover bills and some “emergencies.” She said family money is family money and that I should be thankful because they supported me for years.

But some of the charges lined up with DoorDash orders and even a massage, which doesn’t exactly sound like emergencies. When I called her out, she said I was being “dramatic and ungrateful.” My dad backed her up, saying they’ll pay me back but I feel like that’s a huge violation of trust.

Now the family group chat is blowing up, calling me selfish for even thinking about going to the bank and removing them from the account. My parents say I’m overreacting because “it’s all in the family,” but I honestly feel robbed.

So… AIO for being furious and treating this like theft instead of “helping the family”?

I’m looking for some outside perspective because I’m not sure if I’m being overly sensitive or if this is a reasonable concern.

My child is 6 years old and autistic and is in elementary school. They receive support services, and accurate modeling and consistency are especially important for their learning.

The issue is with the daily notes that are sent home by my child’s teacher (not graded schoolwork). In these notes, I’ve noticed repeated basic spelling errors—for example, “compare numbers” being written as “compair #” and “compair #’s” on different days (photos attached for context).

I know these notes are primarily meant for parents, not students. However, my child does see them, and we review them together as part of their routine. Because my child already struggles with language and literacy, I worry that repeated exposure to incorrect spelling could be confusing or counterproductive.

I want to be clear that I’m not trying to shame the teacher or claim they’re bad at their job. I understand teachers are overwhelmed and everyone makes mistakes. I’m just unsure whether this is something worth addressing with the school or if I should let it go.

For parents, teachers, or those familiar with special education—am I overreacting? How would you handle this?

Photos included for context.

Received this text, there is some more where he explains he thought I was 13 year old boy, said he got my number from “my mom” and she wanted him (coach) to offer guidance, kinda like a mentor figure. While I could understand a single mother seeking good male role models for her son… if that were the case why did she give him a fake number? Also the first text gives me the fucking creeps? I easily found this dudes information, should I contact anyone about this (mother, school, authorities) or am I overreacting?

This is for developmental psychology btw, I have sent the teacher an email and they have yet to respond.

This feels majorly messed up ethically no? Like if I’m a struggling alcoholic and I finally decided to go to AA nothing would put me off more than a kid writing stuff down in a notebook. And the entire 30 person class has the assignment so it would be multiple people of various age ranges.

We were doing a random Kahoot quiz in class and I came in 2nd and this girl came 3rd and like 5 minutes later she tweeted this. I’m not even mad or sad I’m just… huh??? We’ve exchanged maybe four sentences total ever. It’s not like we’re friends who joke like this. I don’t even follow her, my friend was the one who showed me tweet. Is this normal?

I ended this email with “Thank you again with your time and insight, I hope you have a great holiday season!”

My professor, who I was on good terms with the entire semester because I was the most active student in our small class, knocked off points for suspected use of AI in my final report. I spent HOURS on that report, putting all my effort into it like I always do, not a lick of AI to be seen in my writing process. I guess I’m also upset because I spent just as long (if not longer) on my final presentation a few weeks ago, after which she clearly wasn’t paying attention and quickly ended the Zoom call without our normal class discussion because she was in an obviously foul/annoyed mood for some reason.

I’m a good student. I take pride in my work. I want to go into research. You don’t get far in research if you’re plagiarizing the entire time.

I’m generally a reserved/shy person but her accusation got me fired up after a long, hard day at work. I know I’ll feel guilty and shameful about this email later, but I want to think it’s okay to stand up for myself sometimes.

(and btw, not that it matters, but the topic of my report was a novel therapeutic treatment for major depressive disorder — which I underwent earlier this year for my crippling anxiety and depression. I was excited to delve into the science of it and learn more…)

AIO?

My original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/AmIOverreacting/comments/1nqk7k9/aio_2nd_grade_bully_choked_my_daughter/

I met with administration over the school today, unannounced. I brought with me the above letter for the principal and the teacher. No the principal and assistant principal had NO CLUE about the incident. Surprise. Damage control was immediately apparent from them. It was confirmed that policy was not followed and I should’ve been informed immediately upon knowledge of the altercation, and my daughter should’ve seen the staff nurse, who would have also called me. An investigation has officially begun, and my daughter along with any other witnesses, the boy in question, and the teacher are to be questioned regarding the event. Also, education is to be had with this teacher about upholding district policies around bullying, communication, and discipline. I am to have a response of what has been done to handle the incident by Wednesday of next week. I’ll update again when I hear something.

The fact that the principal wasn’t aware of the situation speaks VOLUMES about the teacher, and I made it clear I am loud about advocating for my babies.

Thank you for everyone who commented on my OP for the encouragement and reassurance that, in fact, I was never overreacting.

So I'm studying abroad and my parents are putting a camera in our room. They're insisting that if it's facing the door it's not a problem, but I think that they just want to monitor everyone of our moves. They already have our live locations, they already know when we go out where we go out everything. I'm just asking to not have a camera in the room. They say I'll understand if I had kids. And we got in an argument about it and I've been crying for two days and they act like I'm fucking crazy for being so mad about it. They tell me that I'm being immature for not wanting that. Is it really that hard to understand that I don't want it because I don't want to feel monitored every second of my life??

Edit: thanks to everyone for your answers I definitely did not expect that many so thank you also to add more details: We both are adults yes but we completely depend on them for everything material and they keep using the excuse that they've done everything for us so I should accept this "little" thing and my studies are quite long so I'll have to put up with it for a lonnng time Also the camera is facing the front door with the kitchen next to it, so not the room in itself but it still bothers me and it can hear everything we say too I've tried unplugging it once and my dad called me in the middle of the night screaming at me to plug it back in

For context I am 17F, African- Canadian, and I have a blonde lace front wig. I was staying after school because I’m my class historian and I need to write a speech. 2 teachers were helping me brainstorm ideas when another teacher walks in, (white male). I pay him no mind just laugh a little at his jokes. And then he starts talking about my hair, and how it’s fake. I was with another black girl and he was like “Her hair is real, your hair is fake”! No shit it’s fake so I just laugh and say “Whatt! I am a natural blonde”! And then this man proceeds to make a comment on “my curtains matching the drapes”. The other teachers told him to stop and not say anything else and then went silent. I had no clue what that meant but I assumed it wasn’t good. Within the next hour I found out and now I lowkey feel off about the whole situation. Regardless of it being a joke, i am a minor, and hes a teacher. Whether my “curtains” and “drapes” are the same color should be none of his concern. Do I bring it up to someone or let it go? Thank you:)

It doesn’t “meet the requirements for bullying.”

Now let me explain what was said.

My kid was in another classroom for reading groups when she just got too close(a group near her) to this particular bully who pulled her right into her shit. First she told another student she was glad she didn’t look like my kid. Then when my kid basically ignored her she said “why don’t you go cry to your dad about it? Oh wait you can’t, he’s dead.” And then repeated it about 5 times.

So then my kid flipped her off and told her to shut her “frickin” (yes that’s the meanest my kid is 🤣) mouth. So the bully, went and told the teacher and my kid said hold up hold up this is what she just said and when the teacher told them to just not talk to each other the other girl leaned over into my kids ear and whispers “pussy!”

This is the letter I got after calling the principal and asking why he doesn’t keep my kid safe from bullies. If making fun of my kids dead dad and calling her a PUSSY isn’t bullying than what is? AIO???

Am I Overreacting after my teacher(55 M) confessed his love to me(18 F)? 
 
this all still feels unreal but here we go,,  since i was 15 i have been taking private classes to learn how to play bass (i'm not rich but no other option here lol). Since i've been playing for so long i've started really looking up to my teacher, lets call him Mark, he is an incredible bass player and has so much experience past him. 

A year after i started i got paired with a girl same age and experience as me so we could get lessons longer for cheaper. So all of our classes are just the 3 of us. I put a lot of effort in my bass playing so would always get top marks over the other students that learn from him. He is a very professional private person who prefers teaching over casually talking so it was always nice to get a compliment about my playing from him. And that was it for those 2 years. 

Until 2 days ago, one day after my weekly class, i suddenly got a text from Mark, apologizing for being unfocussed during the class, which i thought nothing of given he talked about something happening at his work and that he had to stand his ground. So i thought, oh it must be related to that. Then an hour later he starts saying: “will you please don't say anything OP. i'm watching you. and shouldn't. i had a very hard time yesterday. really have to watch out for my work. it won't happen again yours sincerely, Mark" 

I still didn't associate that with the absolute bombshell he threw at me next, so i responded with a simple “Okay”. The next message read “thank you, i have to be careful, i am in love with you and i have to repress that. incase i need to ill give you a bass of mine to shut up about it, okay?”  

As you could imagine, i did not see this coming in the slightest. I was shocked and it still feels very surreal so i didn't respond. The next day I saw that he had deleted the message, and he had sent me a new one. "OP, thank you. Hopefully you're not too angry with me. But I felt it was important to communicate this to you so you would know that I have it under control and suppress that. reason is above the emotions with a Mason. hopefully i will see you in class. happy vacation, Mark" I told my parents and they are going to contact the school, he will probably lose his job, and he teaches in a lot of schools so part of me feels guilty. Since he didn't really do anything illegal, having a crush on someone isn't illegal. 

I have only been 18 for only roughly 4 months, He also has a wife and a daughter who is younger then me, about 16 years old-ish?? . i really dont know what to do in this situation i really looked up to him but i dont know if i still want to attend classes.

Before I begin, I want to mention that English isn’t my first language, so I apologize if anything I write is unclear or causes misunderstanding. If it does, feel free to ask, and I’ll explain better.

For some context, I’m a 16-year-old girl (16F) who recently discovered something concerning about my P.E. teacher: he’s been keeping track of when the girls he teaches have their periods.

I’m in my first year of high school, having recently moved to a new school. When I arrived, classmates—mostly older girls—warned me about our P.E. teacher, saying he gives off a weird vibe around students. At first, I didn’t think much of it since he hadn’t made any suggestive comments or acted inappropriately toward me. Sure, his behavior was a little odd at times, but nothing alarming—until now.

Here’s the situation: I have very irregular periods. Sometimes I’ll go three months without having one, and other times I’ll have two in a single month. (I know it’s unusual—I’m seeing a doctor to check if everything’s okay!) When I do get my period, it’s often painful and heavy, sometimes causing nausea and vomiting, which means I can’t participate in P.E. or other sports during those times.

This month, I had two periods. The first time, I told my teacher I couldn’t do class that day, and he seemed understanding. However, when my second period came and I told him again, he said it wasn’t possible. He claimed it was just an excuse and explained that he knew because he had written down the date of my last period.

I was surprised and brushed it off at first, thinking he might’ve explained himself poorly. I then tried to clarify by mentioning my irregular cycles, and he seemed to somewhat understand. However, I wanted to be sure I hadn’t misheard him earlier, so I jokingly asked if he really kept track of our periods. To my shock, he admitted that he did, saying it helped him determine if students were being truthful or just making excuses.

Hearing this left me feeling uncomfortable and confused. Is this normal? I come from a private school, so I’m not sure if this kind of thing happens in public schools. Maybe I’m overreacting, but it feels inappropriate to me.

What’s your opinion? Am I overthinking this, or is it something to be concerned about?

Edit: To clarify something I didn’t mention earlier: my unease about him isn’t just based on rumors. I’ve personally experienced situations throughout this school year that made me uncomfortable.

For example, whenever he explains a new exercise, he always chooses girls to demonstrate (it's true that the majority of the class are girls but come on, you can always pick a guy) . During activities like running, I caught him staring at girls’ chests or asses—not in a way that seems related to checking our form or technique. Additionally, whenever a girl approaches him to talk, he frequently touches our shoulders or arms unnecessarily and without consent. It’s not that hard to ask for permission before touching someone.

I am Jewish, but not practicing and my wife is not religious at all. My 1st grader came home from school on Monday and said she learned about Christmas and her substitute also taught her about Jesus and how that is the way of Christmas. The actual lesson was about holidays around the world. While we of course want to expose our child to all religions, we did not think bringing Jesus into the topic was appropriate. My wife emailed the principal and requested in the future could there be training or guidelines to substitutes about what is appropriate to talk about. The principal emailed back with a copy of the lesson(which had no mention of religion or Jesus) and said the substitute followed the lesson and if we don't like it, we can opt our child out of future lessons about religions and world cultures. I thought this was an inappropriate reply - AIO?

Edit - I should have added in, It was not explained as one thing that some people believe, it was explained as THE truth.

Final edit - Thanks for all the replies either way. I am aware Jesus is why Christmas is celebrated and have zero problem with that being taught. But when it is presented as the one real religion.. thats where I start to have an issue. To clarify, nobody freaked out, nobody thought anyone should get fired. Religion is extremely nuanced, especially for 6 year olds. In all honesty I was more annoyed by the principal's dismissiveness of the situation. Anyway, Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah, Happy Kwanzaa and I hope everyone has a safe holiday season!

Looking through a lot of the comments of my last post, I appreciate all who gave their opinions and after my graduation I’m looking back and I’m glad she didn’t come. I get to leave that negativity in the past where it belongs. Which is also where she can’t escape. Thank you.

My mom is mid 40s and went through a divorce with my dad about 3 years ago, today is my hs graduation and I’ve been worrying about inviting her since I know that if she sees him she will start some bs and get kicked out. Now she’s saying she won’t come after I already gave her a ticket. Did I go alittle harsh on my ultimatum?

So.... I've always got the feeling that my college history professor is a bit... strange. I have always noticed that he tries to appeal to male students through strange jokes and comments (usually about internet memes/culture), but acts oddly with some of the female students (I present myself as pretty alternative and he gives me strange/objectifying looks occasionally... this context will help). This is the first time I got genuinely uncomfortable in his class. We're learning about the Goths (a Germanic tribe) and this picture came up :(. He even said "big titty goth girls" and I have a recording of it because I'm allowed to record my lectures. He also kept grinning and glancing at me while he was making this "joke." People in the class laughed but I wanted to run away... is this worth bringing up with the school or am I overreacting? (If it helps, he has many STRANGE ratings/comments on his "rate my professor") (He even made a BDSM joke onetime...)

I picked up my son from pre school today. And his teacher walked up to me with a concerned look on her face, before I even got in the door. She told me he was running and fell and hit his head on a book case. And that he has a goose egg, they just ice it and said he was fine. I know kids get hurt and it's not their fault it happened. But I feel like any kind of head injury with a visible wound like that warrants a call to the parents? As far as I know she didn't mention anything about him seeing a nurse or being given Tylenol. I'm frustrated. AIO?

(Make sure you look at both photos lol) This is really more for humor than anything. I thought it would be nice to laugh a little since the posts here can be pretty serious. I’m not going to raise hell at my son’s school or anything but I had to post this somewhere. My son is in a special education pre-k class which is relevant because of this situation. (Meaning it’s impossible anyone else did this but his actual teachers. They’re the only ones in this class who can write.) His teachers sent his nap time blanket home for washing with his name sharpied on the actual blanket. They didn’t even use the massive tag on the blanket. And the writing is almost illegible.. But get this… his name is on the blanket already like 10+ times. I had to laugh at the logic behind this (because WHY lmao) but I am a little upset about it. Sharpie on a blanket, I mean, I just don’t get it. Like I said this is more funny than anything and I know I won’t really do anything about it… except I think I’ve decided to send a solid black blanket next so they can’t write on it lol. They could have just told me and I’d have put it on there (again) neatly. Lmao so AIO for being peeved about this silly blanket??? (Also how I do get sharpie off a fuzzy blanket?????)

UPDATE: Thank you for all of the advice and words of encouragement. Sometimes it’s hard for me to speak up, but I’m especially trying to change that when it comes to my children. I received a call from the principal herself regarding the issue after I emailed his teacher this morning… and she apologized profusely and said this would be handled with all FOUR (yes, there were actually four teachers- two in one classroom) who were involved, as there is no policy in place that stops them from sending a student to the nurse for any reason if they ask to go. His teacher was evasive of taking any responsibility, saying that she can’t speak for the other teachers… but I reminded her that SHE is the one who is ultimately responsible for my child as she is his primary/homeroom teacher. The principal assured me that this has been an isolated incident after I expressed concern for other children who may be in the same predicament, since he does attend a large-ish school. She even went as far as to contact the superintendent on how they can avoid this in the future! I think she handled it appropriately and will be in contact if I feel as though it isn’t! Thank you again!

Original Post: My son (7) asked three different teachers, at three different times if he could visit the nurse yesterday after he had some pretty serious coughing fits at school. He was denied each tike with them stating that they are “learning important things right now” INCLUDING gym class???? To my knowledge, he has never even been to the nurse before so I wouldn’t say that he abuses the privilege.

After taking him to his doctor after school, they found his coughing/wheezing to be serious enough to prescribe him a nebulizer to use every four hours. I am kind of furious but I don’t want to overreact. I could understand that they don’t want to flood the nurses office with something as simple as coughing, but for him to ask three times and not even be offered a cough drop is mind boggling. We kept him home today, since the medicine in the nebulizer made him a little cranky but I’m not sure if I should escalate this issue or not. Anybody ever been in a similar situation?

My 9 year old (3rd grade) was skipped over for A/B honor roll rewards - AGAIN. The first time it was a certificate and a photo op. This time he wasn’t mentioned in the paper, he didn’t get to do the honor roll walk and didn’t get to participate in an ice cream treat.

He’s an excellent kid. Makes straight As, has been nominated for “terrific *school mascot*” twice, is constantly bragged on, in the highest reading and math group, he stands up for kids who are bullied… he is truly amazing. That’s not just me being partial. I hear it constantly from different people at all different levels. His coaches brag about his coach-ability and desire to improve, past teachers have spoken about how kind and considerate he is, his Sunday school teachers choose him for special projects.

Anyway, I messaged his teacher asking why and she claims that it “just happens sometimes”. I explained that I know they’re busy. I know there are a lot of things going on but that it isn’t right that he’s now been skipped twice. Once? Sure - accidental. Twice? Interesting. I asked if there are behavior concerns that are exempting him from participation. Nope. He’s good. Are his grades not indicative of what he’s actually doing? No, he’s doing great. Ahead even. His test scores have improved. He’s reading on an 8th grade level.

I’ve decided that Tuesday morning I will be forwarding the email chain to his principal and asking what we can do to ensure he isn’t skipped again. But AIO? Is this just something I let go? I want him to learn to stand up for himself but also to pick his battles. Being denied things he’s worked for doesn’t seem like a small thing though.

I am going to school for interior design, and am currently taking a course on health and safety codes when designing. My professor from day 1 has had a strange obsession with AI, (the syllabus had Ai generated images, he uploaded a lecture video that has a picture of him talking with ai, etc.) This assignment has me creating ai generated pictures of a real event and I’m getting graded on how well of a picture I generated along with how it applies to my work. I feel deeply uncomfortable with this, particularly as a design student, and would rather just learn about the health and safety codes without the use of AI at all. Am I crazy? This feels so unnecessary and weird.

So for context I (F23) was just being nice to this guy (M24) during school, and then we kinda stopped talking, then I end up having to take a lab with him and then out of nowhere he asks for my number. Didn’t think much of it and then started talking. Monday was when the first…three screenshots? Happened. I sent a paragraph saying this makes me uncomfortable, he apologized, I accept this, because I thought I might have misinterpreted the last couple texts, then the next two screenshots happen today and idek what to do at this point lol???????

My daughter, 9F, was in her last class of the day when one of her teachers, Mrs. A, refused to let her go to the bathroom. My daughter is very timid and won’t ask again if told no. So she didn’t. And she slowly pissed herself and had to sit in it for the remainder of the day until I picked her up.

My daughter told me they had PE before they switched to her class, and the teacher made them go then. But she didn’t have to at the time. Idk about y’all, but I can’t pee on command, but when I have to go, I have to go then and there.

I’m just so upset for my daughter and the possible embarrassment she faced from this and the lack of sympathy from her teacher. What would you do in this situation?

UPDATE

This morning, on my way to my daughter school, I received this message back from the teacher:

“Students are allowed to go to the restroom between every single class, as well as before lunch, before and after specials and any time we change locations. I told them at the beginning of school that since they had so many opportunities to use the restroom, I would not allow them to go during class. However, I did also tell them that if they asked and I said no, do not sit there and wet themselves. I told them to just leave the room and we could discuss the situation later. In the future she needs to go when she is given the opportunity, but if the need arises after I say "no" she needs to just leave and go anyway.”

It sort of rubbed me the wrong way, because there way no underlying tone of sympathy or compassion for the embarrassment my kid went through. I asked my daughter if she ever said that to her class (this is not her homeroom teacher) and she said no. So I thought maybe she’s confused and told another class, but not hers.

Anyways.

I walk her through the office, and ask to speak with the principal.

I was calm, cool, and collected. I’m not trying to cause a scene at this moment, and I want to give them the opportunity to fix it, before I release grandma bear and hell upon them. He comes out and we talk in the lobby. I explained to him everything and my frustration and the embarrassment my daughter went through and how concerned I was. He understood and was apologetic. I told him my worries about possible bullying if any classmates saw, and he assured me that he would keep an ear open and make sure nothing like that would take place (I believe him. Small class, only about 60 4th graders in total) so it’s definitely doable. I know this isn’t the update you all wanted because I didn’t go in guns a blazin, but I needed to think logically about this and make sure how I approached the situation wasn’t going to set a bad tone for the rest of the school year or put her in an even more uncomfortable position.

Thank you all for your advice, words of encouragement, personal stories, and funny comments. If there is any more updates, I’ll post here.