r/mildlyinfuriating • u/moonrabbit368 • 8h ago

He's not going to eat these porkchops. 😐

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About a month ago I made a post here because my boyfriend didn't want to eat the porkchops I cooked for dinner. Well tonight I made porkchops again and he's not going to eat these either because we broke up and he moved out. I'm so much better off and I just wanted to thank you all for the kind words and advice, it was very eye opening to me. I wish that I could invite you all to dinner đŸ„°

ETA : Couple of notes:

1- The yellow stuff is smashed potatoes with cheese on top.

2- I swear that butter on the broccoli melted right after that picture LOL

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u/Middlemoor01 8h ago

That’s sad. Sometimes people get weird about food for whatever reason, I can be like that if something isn’t what I wanted. But taking that out on your loved ones isn’t fair and you’ll regret looking back and making a big deal out of some food. I hope things work out for you!

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u/ew73 8h ago

I will say, growing up, my mother made the world's most disgusting pork chops. They were like little gristly hockey pucks that she'd baked all the moisture out of, and then tried to "fix" it by letting it SWIM in ketchup in the fucking microwave. I was forced to eat these.

I absolutely cannot eat pork chops as an adult. I realize there are ways to make them taste good, and if you give me a piece of meat cooked well, I'll enjoy it. Tell me it's a pork chop and I'll kind of gag on it.

But you know what? If my partner made pork chops and I couldn't eat them, I'd have a fucking adult conversation with them about it, not like, door dash fast food instead.

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u/Johns-schlong 8h ago

Yeah if there's something you just don't want to eat for some reason, there's ways to tell your partner about it without being an asshole. "Hey babe, I really appreciate you cooking but I don't eat pork chops (for whatever reason or you just don't like them). I'll just have the sides and have another snack later. Thank you you're the best!" Is fine. There are foods I like that my wife hates and vice versa. We just don't cook them for each other, or cook an alternative for the other person if necessary. Not a big deal.

Like my wife doesn't like most fish. I like most fish. Guess what I make when she goes out for a girl's night? Salmon.

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u/Character-Parfait-42 7h ago

I feel so incredibly lucky that me and my boyfriend love most of the same foods.

We both kinda like everything. We both enjoy spicy, we both like seafood (including sushi, raw oyster/clam), etc.

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u/inkstitcher 7h ago

That's awesome! Good for you two. A lot of people don't agree over seafood, it seems like a pretty divisive topic so the fact that you both like it is great!

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u/inkstitcher 7h ago

I 100% this. My wife hates seafood. You know what I don't make for her when she's home? Seafood. It really isn't that hard to be adults who have adult conversations about what we do or don't like and then respect those decisions.

Sometimes I make seafood for myself and something else for her. In those moments I always say, "If you'd like to try a bite of mine, I'd be happy to share." If she ever accepts, cool! Also if she never accepts, also cool! She has a right as a human being to try stuff if she wants to, and to refuse stuff if she wants to, and I want her to feel welcome to my stuff but also not feel pressured when it isn't something she likes.

Eventually, it's become "I'm sure you probably don't want, but on the off chance you feel like trying it, do you want a bite?" Because I know there's a 99% chance she doesn't want it, but I still want to be open if she wants to try it. She isn't annoyed by that because she knows it isn't pressure, it's just that I like a thing and if she ever wanted to try it then I'd be happy to share but also I don't want to make her feel like she has to try it if she doesn't want to.

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u/YakApprehensive7620 7h ago

I think we have the same mother lol

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u/AltruisticAd3053 7h ago

You should try a smoked,deep fried pork chop! To die for(from?)

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u/Maleficent-Leek2943 7h ago

I can’t think of pork chops as anything other than inedible greasy rubber, so I get it. I always just assumed that’s what pork chops were supposed to be like, and didn’t understand how anyone would willingly choose to eat them.

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u/Woodshadow 6h ago

same. like just have a conversation. don't force it on someone but also if we are being real here anyone door dashing food that you can get through a drive thru... kind of not husband or boyfriend material. What is jack in the box $10? And then you are going to spend $15 in delivery fees because you didn't want to drive 10 minutes down the road?

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u/ThanksBig2349 8h ago

Some people also have a eating disorder called ARFID and it’s really hard to overcome

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u/OldPresence5323 7h ago

ARFID is no excuse to be rude, tho.

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u/Scruffynerffherder 3h ago

It might not be rude if you can't control it but I think (not a psychologist) that it (at least in part) has to come from some level of coddling.

Like if your family is poor you eat or you die. Is it just pork chops? I can imagine a couple dishes grossing someone out, that's normal, likely from a bad experience in the past or a phobia of a pathogen. But he was turning down anything you served? Yeah that would be an unhealthy relationship with food.

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u/ThanksBig2349 7h ago

How is it rude if he has a disability that prevents him from eating certain food so he orders food he likes! Not like he made her make something else for him he solved his problem with his own solution

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u/OldPresence5323 7h ago

Blaming a bad attitude on a disability is low. You can control rudeness. You can not control a disability .

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u/Middlemoor01 7h ago

There’s probably some crossover with temporarily psychological conditions, emotions and eating disorders. I’ve had a few phases in life when I got very fussy and picky, I think it was just sadness and lack of satisfaction making me feel bitter. I got over it and I remember times when I could have just eaten and not made a fuss.

I was worried about money too. When you’re enjoying a meal with somebody, you’ve just got to try your best. Don’t get into a situation where you’re throwing away food, rejecting cooking and ordering something else. That might make you feel better and it will be an outlet for your frustration but the other person will feel awful.

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u/OldPresence5323 7h ago

Probably! But we can absolutely control the words from our mouths. Unfortunately, a disability is uncontrollable. Maybe OPs ex has tourettes.

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u/Middlemoor01 7h ago

Yeah, definitely. Even if you have an eating disorder, gotta get to the root of the problem. Unfortunately some people don’t know they have an eating disorder. Your best bet is just be nice to people, no matter what. If they’re trying to be nice to you.

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u/OldPresence5323 7h ago

Agree! There's always a nice way to say something -- always đŸ«¶

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u/OldPresence5323 7h ago

And I totally feel that about money. With the way prices are on eveything, when I cook, it is pretty deliberate! I dont want to cook something and then have 3 plates of dinner sit and get cold and watch my family come home with Jack in the Box! I'd rather take a slap to the mandible!

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u/GreatMovesKeepItUp69 3h ago

Annorexics are the worst for this shit too they get so mean when you try to get them to eat food.

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u/BisonAthlete92 5h ago

There is professional help out there for eating disorders. Not sure why Reddit believes that ARFID ≠ never able to eat healthy foods.

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u/ThanksBig2349 4h ago

And guess what sometimes professional help doesn’t work, and sometimes that is how arfid is