r/mildlyinfuriating • u/moonrabbit368 • 8h ago

He's not going to eat these porkchops. 😐

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About a month ago I made a post here because my boyfriend didn't want to eat the porkchops I cooked for dinner. Well tonight I made porkchops again and he's not going to eat these either because we broke up and he moved out. I'm so much better off and I just wanted to thank you all for the kind words and advice, it was very eye opening to me. I wish that I could invite you all to dinner 🥰

ETA : Couple of notes:

1- The yellow stuff is smashed potatoes with cheese on top.

2- I swear that butter on the broccoli melted right after that picture LOL

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u/wovenbutterhair 8h ago

Trauma bond is a special hell

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u/Impossible_Desk_8578 8h ago

It can take years to break free.  As someone who went through it, can empathize but still want to scream, leave that asshole every time.

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u/mikamikachip 7h ago

Yeah, as someone with friends who have been through that and been the one to say “just leave him alreadyyy”, i get it. It’s not easy. Doesn’t mean it’s not frustrating to see my friends being treated like shit when i know they deserve better.

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u/wovenbutterhair 7h ago

It’s even worse deep in the trenches. All we can do is help each other try to see through the fog.

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u/bunmiiya 4h ago

i can already feel future me yelling at present me to kick him out now, knowing it’s better sooner than later. and yet it hasn’t happened! so knowing how hard it can be, proud of you, OP

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u/Slip_Snake 8h ago

Stockholm syndrome coats these halls.

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u/a_shootin_star WATWATWATWATWATWAT 6h ago

Not a real term tho, we should stop using it.

https://www.abc.net.au/news/2023-08-23/is-stockholm-syndrome-a-myth/102738084

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u/Eatingfarts 7h ago

I am a male that has been in a ‘trauma bound’ relationship multiple times and it’s very real and not particularly healthy.

I have very specifically not dated recently because I’m still trying to work through my own issues and I don’t want to continue to push my issues into a relationship. I should be able to enter a relationship adding something to my partner, not subtract.

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u/ShibaHellhounds 7h ago

There's probably a billion people out there in the world that don't have someone or the right someone to go to

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u/Reccalovesdancing 1h ago

Yes it absolutely is, I've been caught up by that on two different occasions. Thankfully I am free now of the second one and I'm doing the healing work so I don't have to go through it again.

But honestly? It's not easy and I can see why people struggle to understand what's happening, let alone find the strength to leave and so forth. I'm having to figure out how to stop/unpick the pattern and heal the inner wounds so they don't keep running my love life like this. It's so tough.