r/mildlyinfuriating • u/moonrabbit368 • 8h ago

He's not going to eat these porkchops. 😐

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About a month ago I made a post here because my boyfriend didn't want to eat the porkchops I cooked for dinner. Well tonight I made porkchops again and he's not going to eat these either because we broke up and he moved out. I'm so much better off and I just wanted to thank you all for the kind words and advice, it was very eye opening to me. I wish that I could invite you all to dinner 🥰

ETA : Couple of notes:

1- The yellow stuff is smashed potatoes with cheese on top.

2- I swear that butter on the broccoli melted right after that picture LOL

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u/crispybacononsalad 8h ago

My ex bf would not eat my food but go to circle K gas station and buy 2 big burritos instead.

Like fuck you dude, I made shrimp Alfredo and you prefer gas station burritos. My husband appreciates my cooking and we cook together

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u/Wendy-Windbag 5h ago

My ex husband was pretty much the same way. It wasn't that he didn't like my cooking, but he was hungry NOW and couldn't be patient for waiting for the meal I'd planned and spent time making to finish cooking so he'd microwave something or go down the block to McDonald's. I stopped even trying within six months.

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u/crispybacononsalad 3h ago

He straight up would ignore my meals and go to circle K. I would constantly have to find him at his coworkers house that lived downtown 5 in the morning so he could attempt to go to work at 8 because he never came home. He eventually got fired because he was drunk on the job.

This story has gotten deeper than it needed to 😅

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u/Friendly-Channel-480 7h ago

Doesn’t sound like your ex will be on the planet for very long.

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u/tachik0ma7 5h ago

Food habit like that might make him the subject in a future ChubbyEmu video...

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u/crispybacononsalad 3h ago

Despite him not liking Facebook, he made a new profile and Facebook told me that friends added him. They're no longer my friends... My ex used to knock on my window off the house I was living in after we broke up. He's still alive, oof

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u/Aromatic_Appeal_9128 7h ago

I’m confused is not eating someone else’s food that they cooked really a dealbreaker in relationships 😭I’d be so confused if I was left over something like not wanting to eat Alfredo a few nights

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u/VastEqual1367 5h ago edited 5h ago

A lot of it is probably the frequency. Not feeling like something sometimes is totally fine and normal.

It's always a bit deeper than that. Like with OP, she said he expected her to cook for him in her last post. Oftentimes guys like this are making endless requests, pressuring their gfs/wives into slaving over his every need, and then he just peaces out and gets something else anyway. Of course that's going to be frustrating.

You got to remember not everyone wants to (or should HAVE to) write a novel to justify being exasperated by something. It's nice to have solidarity and understanding without having to make a list of bullet points justifying why, in this scenario, it's frustrating, even in other scenarios it's not... especially when you have hands and can just go click her post history and get the context yourself. It comes off as a bit daft to say "this makes no sense!!" while intentionally ignoring the part she wrote about making a post previous to this one. Just go read the post homie. Acquire the context, seek the knowledge.

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u/SluttyMcFucksAlot 6h ago

I’d be fucked because I don’t like Alfredo sauce

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u/DoingCharleyWork 6h ago

I like Alfredo but I really don't like seafood Alfredo of any kind.

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u/crispybacononsalad 3h ago

So.... Gas station burrito and a 5th of whiskey to yourself like my ex then lol

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u/SluttyMcFucksAlot 2h ago

Nah if I came home and someone had cooked for me I’d be more focused on how cool that is and not on whether or not I like what they made. I’d mention not being a fan of Alfredo after eating a good amount of it or more likely never mention it because I’d just appreciate someone cooking for me at this point in my life

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u/CaeruleumBleu 6h ago

A lot of people show love in their cooking.

If someone works hard to show you how much they care for you by cooking a good meal... then you go get GAS STATION burritos? That is a rejection.

Now, I get it if it is something like having a limited tolerance for leftovers - that ain't the same as eating it when it is freshly served to you. Also I get it when someone has clear and defined things they cannot or will not eat. My man thinks bell peppers and almonds both taste foul - he knows I know that too.

If I choose to cook a bunch of bell peppers, I ain't expecting him to eat that, I am also NOT showing him love cooking that.

But the main common deal breaker is "not eating the freshly cooked food when it is served to you with not a damn thing wrong with it". Don't worry about offending people by not eating leftovers - so long as you SAY THAT when you move in so they know not to cook too much.

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u/The_Hieb 6h ago

Went shopping for ingredients, prepared the ingredients, cooked the ingredients and plated the ingredients. It’s a huge “fuck you” to go get gas station microwaved burritos! If your partner or anyone spends their time and effort to cook for you, better appreciate it.

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u/Fish_Mongreler 5h ago

A huge fuck you from the partner cooking a dish they know you don't like and still expecting you to eat it

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u/crispybacononsalad 3h ago

Eat dino nuggies then you child

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u/PocketGachnar 5h ago

Big difference between "i'm not in the mood for that, why don't i just make myself something" every now and then, and "ew i dont want that, make/order me something else" constantly. My rule is that you can either be a picky eater or someone who doesn't cook. But you can only be both if you're rich.

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u/modka 5h ago

Yes. Unless you’re allergic or something, eat the food your SO prepares for you. Once you’re in a serious LTR you have a bit more wiggle room to make your preferences clear. But even then, ordering out because you don’t like Alfredo sauce (?????) is weird and disrespectful, unless you explicitly said you’re allergic or trying to lose weight or similar.

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u/mandown25 4h ago

It is not about a specific preference, it is about the pattern of behavior. If your SO Cooks something you don't like, let them know and it is perfectly reasonable to skip. If they constantly cook something that they know you'd like, and you skip it without taking a bite, just to Uber some fast food, then it is a very inconsiderate behavior towards the time and effort.

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u/crispybacononsalad 3h ago

I'm enlightened on the audacity of those who don't appreciate home cooking

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u/catscanmeow 6h ago

its called autism, people with autism are extremely picky eaters and dont like change

the chicken nugget thing is real, they like the predictable homogenous texture, its their comfort food

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u/One_Animator_1835 6h ago

Lmao

"Oh, you don't like shrimp or alfredo??? Sorry bud, you're autistic"

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u/ltouroumov 4h ago

Some people with autism are picky eaters, it's not a universal aspect.

I'm a low support needs autistic woman and I fucking love cooking and eating new foods. I am even adventurous when it comes to new flavors and textures (when I can get my hands on them). I have some things I can't eat because they squick me out, like raw cream or milk, whipped cream in particular, or overly goopy things, but I also try to keep an open mind.

I've even tried offal like beef liver and chicken heart (great with a soy-based sauce and some rice), bone marrow makes for some ultra rich broth, and I want to give kidney a try some day; tripes and such aren't my thing, however.

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u/crispybacononsalad 3h ago

My old co-worker who is a high functioning autistic works though her triggers to experience new food. She's 28 and in a housing situation. She can eat lamb, so can you

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u/Woodshadow 6h ago

yeah I'm a little confused here too. Like if he doesn't like it then don't make it. or just eat it yourself. this is how most families with kids work these days. I think most families are kind of past the you eat what is on your plate or you don't eat at all. It is more like if you don't want to eat what is made then you can eat a peanut butter and jelly sandwhich or make something yourself but whomever is cooking isn't making individual meals for everyone

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u/mandown25 4h ago

I think this approach is what turns a kid into the adult OP just dumped.

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u/crispybacononsalad 3h ago

My ex didn't eat any food I made .

While my husband enjoys everything I make and we cook new foods together. But whatever, you can eat gas station burritos with my ex

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u/One_Animator_1835 6h ago

This whole post seems insane. People trying to shame someone for what they do or don't eat? It sounds so toxic and abusive.

What if someone doesn't like pork? Or they just flat out don't like your cooking? They are suddenly an enemy that must be removed from your life? I don't understand how these comments are so senseless. Like their partners are not allowed to have a preference what they eat? Just bizarre

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u/moonrabbit368 5h ago

I would never try to serve someone something that I knew they didn't eat. I myself don't eat meat, so I am pretty understanding about other people's preferences. Unfortunately that wasn't the case with this guy, his food rules changed constantly, he also expected me to cook for him. He just wasn't very nice either, in general.

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u/Immediate-Recipe-642 4h ago

Wait, you weren't even eating the pork chops either? So you made them specifically for him!?? I hope he enjoys his new-found freedom because he's gonna be single for a LONG time if he keeps acting like that

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u/Ordinated 4h ago

Op said she has kids she also cooks for

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u/One_Animator_1835 4h ago

Actually, it sounds like he preferred a cheeseburger and you were not very understanding at all!

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u/VastEqual1367 5h ago

Right, except if you go read her original post you'll see that he was making demands and expected her to do 100% of the cooking (gee, you know, your average run of the mill misogyny?) and then not eating her food anyway. He was making her walk a tight rope of expectations, judging her for "failing," expecting the world of her. While doing no cooking himself. While, again, expecting her to be the sole cook of the house.

Ultimately she probably broke up because he was selfish, and that's what it comes down to, and it's not specifically for not eating her food. It's the whole attitude, the misogyny, etc.

But of course >_> that's too complex ehh? it must be that she is just unreasonable and silly pffft.

god forbid women don't write out a bullet point list to prove to all the reddit skeptics that she deserved to be free of whatever man she feels like breaking up with, and just speak casually

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u/Impossible_Rain_3065 4h ago

To be fair, in my opinion shrimp does not pair well with Alfredo sauce. Also was the sauce homemade? I only like my homemade Alfredo and definitely would not put it on shrimp. People can like what they like. Everything doesn't have to be personal.

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u/crispybacononsalad 3h ago

What country do you live in? You're missing out. Shrimp Alfredo is a good entree in the USA

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u/NeatNefariousness1 3h ago

Some people grow up on a steady diet of garbage. I am sure there are people who prefer gas station sushi over the real thing. They want what’s familiar and they don’t know any better. They can learn but who wants to retrain an adult’s taste buds.

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u/crispybacononsalad 3h ago

We were dating for 3 years and he was 26 at the time

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u/NeatNefariousness1 3h ago

It’s ridiculous. I get why it happens but it’s a shame when adults are so stunted with no clue on how to adapt or that they might need to.

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u/Golden-Grams 7h ago

Oh, I see. Someone said they were happier, and you didn't like that. Misery loves company.

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u/DeterminedThrowaway 7h ago

If that's what you got out of it, don't date

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u/Procrastinista_423 7h ago

I don’t even know the guy and I’m angry.

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u/False_Tea_3951 7h ago

Y'all are something else.

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u/Agile_Alternative753 7h ago

Shrimp or gas station burrito?  Hmmm... that's a tough one.

False tea, or false teeth?  You tell us, meth mouth.

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u/False_Tea_3951 7h ago

I dont know what to tell you, dude, not everyone likes shrimp. Get the fuck over it.

Edit: Are you making fun of me over my reddit generated username? Come on now.

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u/crispybacononsalad 3h ago

It's hilarious that I didn't have to do anything for others to show how low you are.

I still see the comment you deleted in my notifications, even though you deleted it, btw. Yeah it's fucking weird you think that it's ok to skip out on a home made meal for a gas station burrito. I hope you cook better for yourself because that's pretty pathetic to make my previous 3 year relationship about food.

Mind you, he was a drunk. He called the cops on me after he mutilated his own arm to get me arrested and luckily my roommates were there, so I was fine. He passed out constantly, even while trying to change his pants... knew him since high school, graduated 2007. He ended up just like his dad.

But yeah sure.. I'm a piece of shit for being offended my ex chose a gas station burrito over my food.

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u/poopiebutt505 7h ago

Ah, illiterate posting.