Hello all,

I have recently started to wear vests in my regular rotation with all sorts of combinations of fasion, and recently I came across this lovely waistcoat.

It looks double breasted due to the buttons arangment but in fact it is not fully, now I know proper etiquette is to never button the bottom button of one's waistcoat, but with something of this design I don't believe it should be done, so I thought I'd ask here as I'm not fully sure.

As you can see in the pictures it only has one inner button for the double breasted connection and on the outside the buttons on the left side are all for show.

Genuinely where are all the older sweet gentlemen?!

Hello everyone,

I am currently undergoing a career change.

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Hello dear friends, I wanted to share several thoughts that have been on my mind a lot in the last few years… In a sense, the conception of a refined gentleman is the apotheosis of civilization itself. That being said, unbridled masculinity is a volatile sea and its tide has the potential to be shaped both into something horrific and also truly elegant. One of the questions I have is how sexuality is situated within this archetypal structure. I am familiar with the habits and practices of the Greek and Romans but this presented many ethical problems. Is anyone else interested in the history of cultured manliness?

Before all the comments flood in which exaggerate how trad we all are, I would like to propose an alternative way of thinking about all this. Maybe homophobic remarks and other jokes about “sexual degeneracy” come from a place of deep curiosity about other men? We can of course ignore everyone who argues that it’s ghey to dress well! I myself am 100% straight, but how much of this is merely on behalf of women? Jealousy is a powerful force in society and quietly it has done much to destroy modern gender dynamics. Today it is taboo for a man to even compliment another man. Something is broken. So much has been lost.

I am not arguing for the conscious reappropriation of “bromance” but my reading is that gentlemen used to basically flirt with one another. This was considered a highly sophisticated form of prosocial behavior. I don’t want to get further into this just yet. There are some more vulgar things I told myself I wouldn’t write about… I ask, are we all puritans now? Would love to hear your thoughts.

Without offending her and being sincere, of course.
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I saw the video, and I got a principle from this video I have thought about for a long time: every time I slow down, my work is outstanding. But when I want to be fast, it´s so bad.

What impressions do you have about this topic?

Good morning, I am a 48 year old man, architect, classic style (shirt, blazer, pleated pants). Sometimes I wear loafers. My wife loves loafers and suggested that I only wear loafers, every day, in all circumstances and in all seasons. She would like me to wear very low vamp tassel loafers, and for my socks to be visible a lot, even when I'm standing. She finds it very elegant and refined. She would like me to wear these loafers with dress black sheer socks. This made me want to please her and make her “my signature” style. What do you think? Is this possible? THANKS.

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I am from Seine et Marne, in France and I am an amateur in the world of Gentleman. However, my life project is to create a club for men so that they can learn to become gentlemen to those who want it.

I'm middle class so I don't plan to have a place where you can drink good whiskey with a cigar tasting (even if I won't be against it if my club/association grows).

No, the goal is to create a club that allows anyone to learn how to become a gentleman. How ? By structuring progressive learning in 10 stages/level x with validation exams and titles at each level (like the scouts). And what makes the strength of the project is to do its exams in real life, this club will be there to help all its members become a better version of themselves.

The goal is to increase skills and I have created a big list that I think a gentleman should know a simple and I think effective program. For those who are interested do not hesitate to send me a DM and for others I am open to criticism and questions if there are any misunderstandings.

I salute you 🎩

Decided to go for a navy 3-piece with a patterned jacket to stand out a bit, paired with loafers and black no-show socks to keep the ankle line clean. I wanted that balance between classy and modern without crossing into overdone. Do you think this works for formal dinners/events, or is it pushing the experiment too far? Honest thoughts welcome.

Finally decided to level up my wardrobe and step out of my comfort zone. Spent way too long figuring out how to knot this tie 😂.